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Persistent Anxiety and Fear

Cesar,

I have a two-year-old Pomeranian who is afraid of everything; and so worried about things falling on him.  Although since I've had him (about one year), nothing has fallen on him.  He even approaches his food dish as if a snake will attack at any minute.

  Drinking water is the same, he is always prepared to run away.  I have tried to show calm and assertive direction and a matter-of-fact attitude.  Is there anything more I can do?

Alice Jackson

Dear Alice,

This sounds like a self-esteem problem, so you must approach it delicately. We want to challenge the dog physically and mentally with things like obstacle courses, busy environments, and any situation in which the dog can get feedback from other, more confident dogs. We have a case right now that will be in Season Four which is very similar. The name of the dog in this case is Luna, and she is afraid of everything. Even the wind scares her; she comes into a room and sees “ghosts.” Every part of her is on hyper alert – her nose, her eyes, her ears – and everything makes her afraid. We’re trying to bring her around by helping her self-esteem to blossom, and that’s all about exposing the dog to many different situations.

Helping a dog build self-esteem is a very, very long process, and not nearly as fast as aggression rehabilitation. You have to build confidence slowly, and the way you build it is by helping the dog to repeatedly accomplish small goals. Practice obedience training, practice obstacle courses; they don’t have to be champions, but they have to go out and do it. With every success comes a little more confidence. 

Choose the right trainers. The trainers are going to help you to find the right energy in yourself, to help provide the support your dog needs. You have to be thinking about that rehabilitation, and about training yourself just as you train your dog. To do that, YOU have to have a good role model. The role model will guide and ensure that your dog is always getting the best out of you. Remember, it takes time, dedication, and patience above all else. Good luck.

Stay calm and assertive,

Cesar Millan

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Rescue Beagle

We have just recently rescued 3 year old male beagle. He is a very lovable dog. However he is scared of everything. If you walk towards him he backs away with his tail between his legs. We have even tried to just ignore him as we walk towards him and he just bolts. He has become very attached to me already (i am the mom) and we have only had him a week. If i send him out with my husband he cried by the door and scratches. Like he is looking for me. I left for an afternoon and my husband said he went crazy... crying and barking and shakin and when i came back he got all excited to see me. However, within ten minutes he peed on the floor this is new also.

Not sure what to do here.

Any suggestions would help.

Scared Husky

Hallo Ceaser,

We have a 1 year old husky. Since he was a pup he is scared of people.
With us and with children he is great and will come immediatly to us.
When we take him out for walks my wife can not control him. If people is comming from the front he wants to run away and if people is behind us he will keep on looking back. Even if we walk in the main street and cars keep going by he will pull so hard that we are scared that he will hurt his nails and break the chain. My wife walks with a husky harnass and gang line ( received from Cape Town Sledding) on her middle, 'cause it's the only way she can control him. I can control him on a short lease, but he is terrified when there is people or cars nearby.
We have tried to stop and calm him down, but he won't listen and just want to go home.
We took him to a trainer and for one day he was great. But the training was given on a farm with no one else there.
How can we train him not to be so scared and that my wife can walk with him without running after him?

Same Issue

Good morning Jacques,

I have the same exact issue with my border collie/great dane mix. I had her since she was 2 mos old (now she is 3 years old) and was always afraid of "things". The first sign of this is when she was 6 mos old, she was literally afraid of her own shadow. Now she is afraid of things that are new or do not belong (if I were to move an item from point a and put in in point b). We have learned to deal with that aspect, but part of what is new are new people. Unfortunately, kids will fall into that category as well. I love dogs and even volunteer at an animal shelter here in town. So although her biting is not a fear of mine (as she will not, or at least not yet, bite anyone), I am really afraid of her scaring a child so bad that the child would then be scarred for life when dogs are concerned. It also scares older adults away, so meeting new people is also out of the question. I would love to learn how to change this behavior in her but when I look into training, they want her to start with the basic sit and stay. Well she learned that at 6 mos old and is really good at sit,down, wait, and stay; so I really don't want to pay money to train her to do something she already knows how to do.

I wish you luck with this issue as I can feel your frustration and will look forward to hearing Milan's answer to your plight.

Jenn

Separation Anxiety

Hi Cesar,

I have a four year old Shitzu (Pepsi) who has severe separation anxiety. I believe she has had anxiety since she was a puppy. When she was a puppy she would get out of her penned in area, wreck flooring and doors and, has even wrecked kennels. My vet put her on a drug that is supposed to help with anxiety called Clomicalm which she is no longer on. I have hired a couple of trainers but have not had any luck. My neighbors say she barks consistently while I'm at work and even claws at the front door. I have taped her while i am at work and she goes nuts clawing at her kennel to the point where she is moving it across the floor and pees in the kennel too. If i do not lock her in the kennel she destroys the doors, floors and moldings. She is also very jumpy and afraid of everything. Please help!

Bullmastiff separation anxiety

I have a two year old male Bullmastiff who has a big problem when I leave the house. I've tried letting him stay outside while gone but he always follows the car or runs in front of the car and stops. When I leave for the day and leave him inside, he often chews remote controls and/or shoes, scratches the carpet/floor, etc. I would like to be able to leave him outside while gone. what can I do to ease his anxiety? Any suggestions?

Blake

Rescuer dog: The couch eater

Dear Cesar,
Sasha is a rescuer dog who found my sister (Nita). Sasha is a sweet, loving dog with tons of personality. She loves the dog park and gets along with all the other dogs. The problem (and it is a big one) she's the Great Destroyer.
I need to go back a few months. Sasha is about 19mon old and had 3 different families before Nita got her. Nita is am amazing dog owner. She is treated like a princess and she is loved. A few months after she got her Nita best friend got sick and she needed to go out of state for a month. During that time, my bother-in-law (Paul) and I took turns caring for her. She did o.k. ripped up a few things, but nothing to bad. Nita came back and everything was o.k. Recently Nita went away for the weekend. Paul and I took care of Sasha and on Sunday I went over took her to the dog park and stayed with her for 3 hours. When Nita got home she had pooped and pee'd all over the house and ripped a big hole in the leather couch. My poor sister doesn't know what to do.
Now every time she leaves for a few hours Sasha goes for the couch and pee's and poop's. Nita loves Sasha and wants to keep her, but she can't be with her all the time. What can she do?

Rescuer dog: The couch eater

Dear Cesar,
Sasha is a rescuer dog who found my sister (Nita). Sasha is a sweet, loving dog with tons of personality. She loves the dog park and gets along with all the other dogs. The problem (and it is a big one) she's the Great Destroyer.
I need to go back a few months. Sasha is about 19mon old and had 3 different families before Nita got her. Nita is am amazing dog owner. She is treated like a princess and she is loved. A few months after she got her Nita best friend got sick and she needed to go out of state for a month. During that time, my bother-in-law (Paul) and I took turns caring for her. She did o.k. ripped up a few things, but nothing to bad. Nita came back and everything was o.k. Recently Nita went away for the weekend. Paul and I took care of Sasha and on Sunday I went over took her to the dog park and stayed with her for 3 hours. When Nita got home she had pooped and pee'd all over the house and ripped a big hole in the leather couch. My poor sister doesn't know what to do.
Now every time she leaves for a few hours Sasha goes for the couch and pee's and poop's. Nita loves Sasha and wants to keep her, but she can't be with her all the time. What can she do?

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The Cage and The Elkhound

Hey Cesar,
I need your help badly! I am fostering a Norwegian elk hound for the time being and she is a lot of work. I walk her for long periods of time I take her to parks to socialize and I do everything you say and everything I've read I apply to her and my other dog. I establish my leadership, I master the walk and do all the right things but recently i got a Head lead leash and as I was putting it on she bared her teeth and I corrected her and still bared her teeth eventually she bite me very badly on my hand (bleed and tears) and she ran to her cage. It seem the cage is her safe spot. It empowers her nerve/aggression. I think her last owner uses it in a negative way or didn't disciple her right.

The reason I am writing this is because I think i am in over my head, not just with her but in general. I go to school for dogs, Ive read your books and studied your methods. I even work at Best Friends Pet Care here in New Jersey. But I feel like I am doing everything wrong. I feel like reading and watching your show isn't good enough. I am surrounded by very unbalanced dogs and naive humans and it frustrated me which effects my energy everyday.

Car Phobia

I have a three year old border collie who has a fear of the car. He will quite happily jump in the car but once in there will jump about, shake, bark and rip things up. I have tried densensitising him for a long period of time, have tried homeopathic remedies, crating him and covering it over, have seen two animal behaviourists and a number of other things that have not worked. Do you have any suggestions.

Many Thanks for any help and guidnace

Chihuahua bought from strangers

I have just bought a dog. He is 11 months old and has taken to me well in the past 3 days. I bought him to give as a gift for my friends mom, but the original owners NEVER let him outside and NEVER house broke him. He is SO nervous, and does not like my husband. I have tried taking him out and for walks, but he will not use the bathroom outside. He did finally pee, but no poo poo. I walk him around after he eats, but NO. If I leave the room, he totally panics. He is a beautiful dog and I really want to get to where I can give him to her, but he has too many problems. I can't sleep since I got him as he just wants to sleep with me and I know that the lady I was giving him to would not have that. I have gotten him a bed (laundry basket) and he stays in it well until I leave the room, then it is panic time again. Can he be rehabilitated?

Dog aggeshion

Hi Ceaser!

I wanted a small dog cause I met a nice chiwawa. So for my birthday my mom got me a chiwawa named duke and he is shared of every thing except my family and pets. When my mom picked me up for shool a boy stuck his hand in the window and Duke put his teeth on him but did not bite down. I guess he is showning tghe boy he was the boss. (Which hes not!!)

PLEASE HELP ME! MOlly

Nervous rescue dog

Dear Cesar,

We recently rescued a dog from the local shelter, he's called Woody and he's a Lurcher (I don't know if you use term Lurcher in the US, but in the UK a Lurcher is a sighthound crossed with another dog, usually a herding dog or terrier). We believe he's a Greyhound / Lab cross. He was picked up as a stray. We've had him about 4 weeks now.

He's a very gentle and affectionate dog and his rehabilitation in coming on great, but we have a few problems we could really do with advice with. He's very submissive, perhaps overly so, but the biggest problem is that he will, if given the chance run out the door and no amount of commands no matter how assertive we are, he'll run off like a rocket. Having Greyhound in him, it is impossible to catch up to him. He'll ALWAYS return several hours later. But he acts scared to come back through the door in to the house. It takes hours and hours of coaxing him with food and treats to get him back in the house and when he finally does come into the house, he expects to be punished by rolling on his back and shaking.

He also has a problem with other dogs, he gets very worked up when going past other dogs, but he's coming from a very nervous angle and not an aggressive one. He's not an aggressive dog.

It goes without saying, we are following Cesar's Way to the letter, but perhaps there is something we are missing. We can't have a door open without having Woody on a leash.

Are we just being impatient and should we just give him more time, considering he is a stray?

It's also important that I mention that he is very respectful of us and the house. He walks on leash very well when there are no dogs; he's excellent with the small pets and is very respectful around food. However, despite this respectfulness, his tail stays between his legs a lot of the time.

Any advice would be very gratefully received!

nervous resue

Hi,
I have a similar situation! My husband and I rescued a 5yr old great dane right before Easter. She is an awesome dog, other than she was not socialized and was kept in a basement. I have been faithfully taking her places, and she has improved--after a while, she will take her tail out from between her legs. She does not try to escape, but if she is in our bedroom, we have a really hard time getting her to come out without her crying and whimpering. Her main problem is our middle son. He is 19, very calm, and very loving toward her. She is petrified of him and shakes horribly when he is home. She will wag her tail, but still shake. When I am not here and he is, she shakes and cowers from him. He has never done anything to her. My guess is that he resembles someone who hurt her. I do not know if the bedroom problem is related, but she lays on the floor on her back and cries if we try to move her. We have to bribe her with food or with telling her we are going bye-bye. Any suggestions?

Have you had any luck with

Have you had any luck with your situation? I am suffering with the EXACTLY the same problem with our 2 year old rescue bitch lab/terrier mix called Angie.

Chris

Fearful Shih Tzu

Hi Cesar,

Miracle(3 year old spayed female) is afraid of dogs and puppies. She was playfully attacked by a Corgi puppy at Puppy Kindergarten when she was around 6 months old and is still fearfull. She loves people and children...her job is a Pet Therapy Dog with a national organization here in Tampa Fl. I puppy sat a 8 week old toy female poodle for a day in my home and Miracle went crazy....she ran away from the puppy, barking and growling, the little puppy really wanted to play with her and she was not having it. Later that evening, Miracle vomited several times and the next day she had bloody diarrhea. I went on line and found out that some toy/small breeds will react intestinally due to stress. She did participate in agility training when she was around 2 years old. What can we do to help her? She does have 3 unneutered friends in the neighborhood and has no fear of them until thay become a little aggressive.

Cora, the shy dog.

When I saw the episode with Luna, I could relate, because I recently adopted a 3 year old German Sheperd/unknown mix, Cora, who had a fear of everything. She was caught while pregnant and had her pups the next day. She remained at the SPCA for 3 months and was adopted once but returned within a week. I was told that she most likely never lived in a home and any sudden noise scared her. She would freeze on the spot and shake and she had never barked. She would stare at thin air and avoid all eye contact. When i brought her home she was scared of my cat, who gently decided to take her under his wings. I noticed that his calm energy relaxed her as well as long walks, music, watching The Dog Whisperer ;) and she LOVES chasing rabbits. I also started socializing her with other dogs. So after three months of great progress we finally decided to get a puppy, a Golden Retriever/Great Pyrenees, Clayton. After only two weeks, he finally got her to bark, at him, but at least we know she has it in her. Cora is still on a long road to recovery and still shies away from some human attention, but she's getting there. Our main problem now is the Clay won't leave our poor cat alone and that is dangerous for both of them :(, he's only 11 weeks, but he begins puppy obedience classes on Sunday...

Thanks to The Dog Whisperer I was able to cure Cora from her fear of cars, other dogs, cats, loud noises, even vacuums and baths. I learned not to baby her fears, to reward wanted behavior and streghthen her trust in me through our daily walks and stimulated her with knew challenges that allowed her confidence to grow :)

Fearful dogs

I will be very interested in watching the episode featuring Luna. I have a 6 year old female cocker spaniel named Cocoa who was rescued from a puppy mill operation out of Missouri a few years ago. She came to me with eye and ear infections, was approximately 12 pounds overweight (and she's a petite American cocker, she was almost TWICE her ideal weight!). She's highly fearful of EVERYTHING.

We have had her two years now and she has yet to bark. I've heard her vocalize with a yawn ONCE, and a quiet growl once, but nothing else. She's terrified by any loud noise or sudden move, and spends most of her time huddled behind any piece of furniture that's close to me. She has improved since we got her, but my heart breaks for her. I don't want her to be so afraid.

One other thing: she's attacked our elderly cocker several times, the provocation being a growl from the Old Man. She's very timid and shy otherwise, but when he'd growl at her, she'd latch on and not want to drop the fight, even after they were separated. We haven't had the problem for awhile now, since we keep them separated during feeding time or any other time food is involved, as that's the only time Lucky would growl at her.It's like the growling triggers some massive fight reflex in her.

Anyway, I'm rambling. I look forward to the Luna episode and learning some ways I can help Cocoa become more comfortable and confident.

~K

my german shepherd

hi cesar
i am pritty sure my 2 and a half year old german shepherd has an anxiety problem when she was a pup even now i take her every where with me and there are some places i can't take her with my and i leave her home with my parents and they said the minute i walk out the door she whines and whimpers and runs around looking for me and i also think she is fear aggresion cause when i walk her she is constantly pulling and growling and lunging at other dogs i never socialized her and her hair is up if i dog is tyed in there back yards and they bark she bolts to get away dragging me down the road with her



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