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My Dog is Scared of Me

Dear Cesar,

We have a one and a half year-old Shar-Pei/Lab mix named Ebby. We've had her since she was eight weeks old. We spared no expense on her training, and she was in boot camp for three weeks. She has been our "baby" until we brought our new son home.

Ebby seems to be scared of us now. She won't sit by us, listen, or show affection any longer. She has changed in such a negative way, and we miss our old girl. Any suggestions that you have to get the fun and obedient Ebby back would be appreciated beyond words.

Tiffani Johansen
Saint Charles, IL

Dear Tiffani,

The good news for you is that you still have that fun and obedient dog! The bad news for Ebby is that she is living with humans who aren't sure how to deal with such a big transition yet.

Since you brought your son home, your energy has changed. It's normal for a dog to want to stay away from an uncertain energy. Dogs look for stability. If your dog sees that you don't know what to do, or that you're sad, that could be interpreted as unstable energy. Just maintain a normal routine. By going for the walks as usual, by not feeling bad about the transition, and by really paying attention to how you feel about the transition yourself, you can make things much smoother for her. Embrace the beauty of having children and allow your dog, since it is part of a pack-oriented species, to integrate into the changed pack. Once you are able to have the two together - the stroller and the leash - you'll start to see a change: your dog, walking in a follower position with the baby!

A tip for taking the stroller on the walk: don't do it with your baby unless you are confident that you can balance both the stroller and the leash at the same time. Master them both separately first, then bring them together with only the scent of the baby - maybe a diaper or a blanket - before you introduce your new son into the equation.

Don't forget to watch some of the episodes where we have done this kind of training for new parents. You will see that you are not alone - you are part of the 90% of Americans who see dogs as human babies, first. Remember, she is Animal, Dog, Breed, THEN Name. You're seeing her as a name first; as Ebby. And now that you have a real human baby, she is naturally a little confused. So practice seeing her as Animal, Dog, Breed, Ebby, and then just watch the magic happen!

Stay calm and assertive,
Cesar Millan

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Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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scared of us

My wife and I rescued a pit bull mix from BARC here in Houston TX. At first She was very scared of us. We went to the training class provided by BARCS and on a lesh she does wonderful. For the first month she was working out of her shell. Then there was an over excited dog (too friendly) during one of the training classes. Put her in a tail spin. She now is not scared of us as long has she has the lesh on. But take the lesh off and she has a real problem with commands such as come, sit,stay. But put on the leash and she comes, sit,stay and walks Great. We have tried treats but with little success.
Not sure of the correct steps to follow from here. Currently we walk her everyday. 45 min to 1 hr. she does great even when other dogs, kids, bikes, runners come by. Squirrels takes a little more reminding her to calm down. But she obeys.
We walk her with our other dog who we also rescued from Barcs the same day. He is a rotwieler mix. He will come when called with or with out a lesh. He is a good example. But she acts like she is afraid of us or afraid that we will hit her. She is a great dog and we try to involve her in our daily lives. Both are great when we go to our chiropractor office. Behaves wonderfully, with the kids and adults as long as they move slowly. Fast motion seems to triger a response. In her case it's to leave ASAP. But with the rotwieler he is all in favor of the attention.

Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Pat & Sandy

My 5 month old Maremma is afraid of me

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Staff x Lurcher Sceared of Owner

Hi Bulldogger729,
I have a staff x lurcher who lives at home with myself, my partner, our little girl and our cat. He has a really good temperment but he is really sceared of my partner.
If he calls our dogs name (Dexter), Dexter will begin to shake and totally ignore him. He avoids all eye contact and acts like he is not there. He also wee's himself in the house quite a lot if my partner wants to interact with him. Sometimes he will go to my partner and interact with him but most of the time he is a nervous wreck.
When Dexter would shake I would go and sit with him and stoke him (in Dexters eye's I am rewarding this kind of behavior), so I am trying not to do this anymore and trying to ignore this behaviour. But other than that I don't know what to do to help him.
Sammie

Our 6 month old great dane is afraid of us!

Dear Cesar,
First of all let me tell you how sorry I am for your loss. Daddy was a wonderful friend and example to the rest of you pack and all dogs you have rehabilitated and humans you have trained. He will always be remembered by those that admire the wonderful job you do.
Well, my problem is Isis, a “Great Dane” or “Dogo Aleman”, how we call them here in Spain, that we bought from a breeder about two weeks ago. She is six months old and was brought to us by the breeder who had already a hard time taking the dog out of the car. He insisted that she was a really good dog and was very scared from the almost three hour drive and being on a car. He insisted we should leash her and keeps her that way for a couple of days until she got used to her surroundings. As soon as she got out of the car she got into the dog house put her head down on one of the corners and did not get out. We put a collar on her and she did not like it at all, getting her on a leash was very difficult. After the breeder left it took us more that five hours to get her out of the dog house and into our house where we thought it would be safer for her and she could get used to our smells and those of the other dogs and cats. We have a really big property with 20K square meters of land and we have three year old Great Dane who is very obedient and submissive to us, three yorkies (that’s a different story) and five cats who help us keep mice and moles away. Well, Isis got into a corner with her head down and did not move all night. The next day she got out and was out all day playing a little with Jabbar, the other Great Dane, and doing her own thing. At the end of the day it was very difficult to catch her to come into the house to sleep. Every time we try to get close to her she runs away… it’s been like this for two weeks and we don’t know what to do. When she is inside the house at night, we have no problem getting close to her and petting her but she will be tense and not trusty. She has never tried to bite us or attack us and she lets us pet her when she is inside the house in her corner. We’ve called the breeder a couple of times and he says we need to give her more time, but I am starting to think that she was not very well treated by the breeder or perhaps the other dogs she lived with. We have contacted a dog trainer who will come to examine her but at this point we are contemplating the idea of returning her to the breeder, something we have never done before and we wouldn’t like to do until extinguishing and trying all possibilities for Isis to adapt to our family. She is a beautiful dog and we can see in her eyes that she has suffered some kind of abuse that makes her behave so fearful of us.
Hope you can give me some ideas of how to handle this situation and trying to help ourselves and Isis being a happy family.
We love your show and admire the work you do.
Thanks so much for everything,
Marisol Garcia Penalta

Our 6 month old Great Dane is afraid of us!

I feel for you Marisol! We just got a 7 month old miniature Urban Australian Labradoodle and she loves the kids but is scared of both my husband and me! I have to finally grab her to get her to come into the house as she won't walk across the deck to the door or back the other way to go out! I know that me having to grab her is scaring her more, but that seems to be the only way we can get her to go! I am waiting anxiously to see what kind of advice Cesar gives you as I need it too! Take Care!



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