I went on a 45-day overseas tour to teach people about dogs—but I ended up learning a lot about people…
Dogs have brought so much into my life. One of the great things they have given me is the opportunity to travel to countries I might not otherwise have seen, where I’ve met and—more important—connected with people from different cultures.
This year I spent the longest time ever away from home when we took our stage show to England, Scotland, and Ireland for 45 days. It was filled with the kinds of encounters I will never forget. I hope I left behind some lessons on our relationship with dogs. I know I took away knowledge and love from the people I met.
When I was growing up in Mexico, England was just a place on a map, and we really believed everyone there lived in castles and spoke like Shakespeare. It’s true, English people can seem reserved and very quiet compared to Americans, but they are passionate about their dogs. I realized that when the audiences seemed quiet, it was in fact a compliment, because they were listening and learning for their dogs!
I was just 13 years old when I announced that I wanted to be the best dog trainer in the world (that was before I realized that it was the humans who need training), so I am always inspired by meeting children. One little girl really made a lasting impression on me. Twice she had tried to come to our show, but -because she was suffering from cancer and had fallen ill, she couldn’t make it. Finally, she traveled several -hundred miles to see our show in Liverpool, and when I heard she was in the audience, I asked to meet her. She had made a scrapbook for me of pictures of Daddy, and she told me that she actually wanted to meet him more than me! I don’t blame her for that. Without any words, we said so much to each other about pain.
In Glasgow, Scotland, we gave a show on Mother’s Day (they celebrate it earlier than we do). A tough Scotsman who was working at the theater stopped by to tell me that when his mother was sick, Dog Whisperer was her favorite TV show and a highlight of her week. In fact, he told me, it made him happy to know that she had been watching the show when she passed away. He was very matter-of-fact, and his eyes were quite dry—but tears were running down my face!
An 11-year-old boy came up to me at our hotel in Dublin and asked me if I was the Dog Whisperer. I said yes, and I asked if he watched the show. “Not really,” he told me. He had a badge with a live green plant pinned to his shirt, and I asked him what it was. He told me it was a shamrock and asked me if I would like it. As he helped me put it on he said, “Welcome to Ireland!”
Our show in Dublin was magical—which may have been helped by the fact that it was St. Patrick’s Day and I went on stage dressed as a leprechaun and carrying a pint of Guinness!
Everywhere we went we met dogs: running happily off-leash in the park outside our hotel in London, near Princess Diana’s old home; on the cold, windy beaches outside of Newcastle, in northern England; and, of course, on stage. We honored service dogs, helped owners understand the issues they were having with their pets, and, as always, made the case for adoption whenever we could.
And I learned again how much dogs can teach us—and how learning about dogs can help people, too. For example, I met a mom whose teenage son had been battling a serious drug addiction. By employing the calm-assertive energy she had seen on the show, she learned how to deal with her problem and helped her son get clean again.
Perhaps the most moving lesson was in Belfast, the city in Northern Ireland that was torn apart for 30 years by violence that claimed thousands of lives. There is a wall through the city, similar to the one that divides Mexico and the U.S. But this one separates people of the same country and the same race. You are invited to write messages on the wall, so I wrote, “Hope and Forgiveness: Love like a dog and live in the moment.”
When you travel and meet people from different backgrounds, you realize how the language of our love of dogs brings us together—and how we can all learn from the love and forgiveness that dogs -always show to us.
